Technically, there are four Niziols riding on this golf cart. (at St Ives Country Club)
"Young Girl Standing in a Doorway Knitting", 1863, Germany, by Johann Georg Meyer von Bremen
This is now a “Hurry up and get here fall!” blog.
Separating your baseline personal desires from other factors, like the relationship you’re in at the moment or where your career stands, is a phenomenally difficult task. Not to mention the societal pressure. Despite the ever-increasing feminist influence on the mainstream, conventional wisdom still says that motherhood is womanity’s highest calling — just ask every CEO who refers to her kids as her greatest achievement. At the same time, young women get a loud and clear message that parenthood is tough. Really tough. Books like Overwhelmed: Work, Love and Play When No One Has the Time top the best-seller list. Blunt headlines explain that women pay a major penalty at work for becoming mothers. Even the parenting-related clickbait is scary: “100 Reasons Not to Have Kids.” Throw in a few wine-drunk conversations with friends who are parents about their sleepless, sexless lives, and who wouldn’t be at least a little bit ambivalent? —
What If You Just Don’t Know If You Want Kids? - NYmag.com (via annfriedman)
Seriously, it’s OK if you want kids, if you don’t want them or if you’re not sure. Outside pressure should never influence your decision, because it’s YOUR decision. It’s OK to be on the fence. It’s OK to be ambivalent. I think Ann makes some great points in this column that are useful no matter what your opinion on kids is.
I’ve personally never wanted kids and I’ve always known that. I consider myself lucky for knowing that deep in my gut and I will never apologize for it. Even when people come up to me and decide that it’s socially acceptable for them to question my life choices.
I leave you with one of my favorite quotes from Gloria Steinem.
"I’m completely happy not having children. I mean, everybody does not have to live in the same way. And as somebody said, ‘Everybody with a womb doesn’t have to have a child any more than everybody with vocal cords has to be an opera singer."
Because we should all be able to live our own lives by our own rules/desires.
Re-blogging because I am glad to be a mom, but I also think EVERY woman has the right to decide whether or not she wants to have kids, and folks should do everyone the courtesy of not hassling people who chose either way. Enough already with the hassles, people. If you want kids, by all means, have kids. If you don’t, more power to you. Let’s all be kind. I think giving someone a hard time because they don’t want kids is absurd.
"Ophelia" by Afilimona
Anonymous said: Having had the experience you did in Ethiopia, what would you say to Americans (or other folks in Western countries, I don't know if this is an America-specific problem) who are anti-vaccine?
Vaccines have saved literally billions of human lives.